What can clients expect to take away from sessions with you?
In our work together, we'll focus on self care, mindfulness, and helping you reframe beliefs that keep us stuck in negative patterns. I believe therapy is an opportunity to not only grow in relationship with ourselves, but also to pay that healing forward in a way the benefits our relationships. As you grow, you may find that you outgrow those who aren't ready to change with you. That's okay. It just means you are starting to choose you. This kind of change is hard. But the process of transformation, from going from the acorn to the great Oak, is a deep experience that leads to a whole new outlook on life. As you give yourself what you need, your compassion for self and others leads to greater peace. You know that whatever happens in life, you can handle it.
What treatment methods and tools do you utilize?
As your therapist, I assist you in clarifying your goals and honor your inherent power to heal. Rather than being drawn to one modality, I look at all individuals, the environment and the situation and draw on a number of modalities. I believe the therapeutic alliance is the most important aspect to healing and encourage my clients to openly discuss their experience in therapy. I start my work with clients by looking at self care - how are you filling your cup? And then helping you break down the barriers to feeling better. Often, it's the voice inside our heads that keep us small and limited. Our work will focus on mindfulness training - teaching you to be in the moment and quiet your mind. This is where the magic happens.
Will we be a good fit?
As someone who was diagnosed later in life with ADHD, my strength comes from my own wounds. My life has not been easy, and because of this, my approach is grounded in feminist theory. I encourage women to think about the things they've learned to accept without questioning whether its good for their wellbeing. It will feel uncomfortable to put yourself first. But, this shift is vital if we are going to change the paradigm that is currently not working.
I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?
Not at all. People who ask for help know when they need it and have the courage to reach out. Everyone needs help now and then. In our work together, I’ll help you explore and identify your strengths and how to implement them to reduce the influence of the problems you are facing.
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
The difference is between someone who can do something, and someone who has the training and experience to do that same thing professionally. A mental health professional can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, counseling is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing my business.” Lastly, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, and you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that once you are feeling better you could start avoiding that person so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.
Why shouldn’t I just take medication?
Medication can be effective but it alone cannot solve all issues. Sometimes medication is needed in conjunction with counseling. Our work together is designed to explore and unpack the problems you are experiencing and expand on your strengths that can help you accomplish your personal goals.
How long will it take?
Unfortunately, this is not possible to say in a general FAQs page. Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them and the length of time counseling can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek counseling in the first place.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication will be crucial to your success.